Content warning: Rape trauma disorder/ Sex abuse/ PSTD
Every day we receive thousands of inbox messages, testimonials, requests, and all sorts of writings from our customers and blog readers that we carefully read. Every day.
All of them are extremely important to us.
Those messages convey needs, trust in our work, demands and sometimes life stories.
Recently, a story shared in our testimonial session by a courageous and amazing woman came to our attention in a form of an anonymous testimonial and we couldn’t help but ponder about the importance of her story and the need of having a genuine talk about the subject.
Through a moving testimonial, one of our beloved customers told us her story, placed in an unfruitful scenario for any woman that wants to practice her sexuality freely. She was struggling to find a way to restore her sex drive after being sexually assaulted by her own husband and living with the ongoing triggers caused by this traumatic experience. It’s important to point that she was a victim of a NARC (Narcissistic abuse) and she is also a single mother of a beautiful child. But now she finally, she found a way to overcome those triggers by using our Desire Vibe vibrator, recommended by a close friend.
Her reality unfortunately, is the same of a significant portion of the American (and worldwide) population and after knowing about her story we’ve decided to share one thing or two that in a hope that can bring some sense of renewal and hope.
A bit of information
Sexual and psychological abuse events might produce some kinds of traumas on its victims, that might persist per months or even for years and comprehensive care should be addressed as soon as the effects become apparent. The traumas could be linked to the development of physical and health conditions causing interferences on its victims’ daily life.
According to the National Sexual Violence Resources Center (NSVRC), “one in five women in the United States experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime”.
As for a rape trauma, according to the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, a “PTSD is a reaction to being exposed to an event which is outside the range of normal human experience.”
Everyone has a different way to react in face of abnormal setting and coping with it requires physical and mental strength.
Coping with a rape surviving experience and a post stress traumatic disorder can be debilitating and exhausting. Some of the victims might experience a strong range of feelings that may affect their ability to express and control their own emotions, they might feel lonely and discouraged to move on with daily life activities.
Some of the victims might even experience physical symptoms as more intense premenstrual symptoms, reproductive health problems, low libido, gastro problems and others. And of course, some of them can even interfere in their sexual life in general.
If you been through an event like this and has been dealing the stigma, the anger, the fear, the shame, and some other strong emotions, acknowledge that your feelings are valid and reading the spectrum of your own emotions can be overwhelming but there’s ways to overcome them. And foremost, the guilt, only resides on those that committed this crime against you. While going through this situation, the most important thing is, to take care of yourself.
Treatments
Gladly, treatments and ways to soften the conditions during the treatments, are available to help and to reinforce our previous point: the most important is to take care of yourself.
Exposure therapy, cognitive-processing therapy, and medications are some of the treatments available nowadays to help with the problem. A medical opinion can help loads with it and it’s the most indicated way to go, but if needed, the emotional support offered by family and friends can also be very welcoming.
Our experience and other testimonials
A few effects caused by a Rape PSTD such as low sex drive, shame, fear, and others might play a part on how you deal with your sexual life and multiple women (and men) has experienced difficulties to take back their sexuality to a place where it should be.
Fortunately, as the story that we’ve shared by the beginning of our article and therefore motived this discussion, mentioned that a sexual device and/or a vibrator might help to cope and overcome a few of those.
A vibrator will keep you in control of your own body (there’s no human touch evolved besides yourself) and the experience will be only about you, giving you freedom and confidence to discover the wonderland that your body is.
Being comfortable and feeling safe with your sexuality, having your physical and psychological needs attended in a tended universe of yourself is absolutely important.
And happily, other similar stories were shared from our customers and blog readership, maybe those can also bring some encouragement and hope:
What about the vibrator?
When it comes down to choose a vibrator is important to pick one that will make you feel happy and that will finally attend your needs. Search for information, knowing your body, finding the right place to get one are thing that must be considered when you decide to move forward with your purchase. So be gentle with yourself and get a device that will cherish your body as much as it deserves.
For those who are curious about our Desire Vibe (the kind of vibrator that your best friend would recommend), here’s a small product guide and features list:
- The Desire vibrator a waterproof rechargeable clitoral sucking vibrator with 10 suction modes. You can test each one of them (oh yeah! We’ve already mentioned that it has 10 modes, right?) and check those who makes your toes curl and your eyes roll.
- The 10 suction modes will intensively but pleasantly stimulate the clitoris to reach the clitoral orgasms. Doesn’t matter if you are a first timer or a pro, the Desire Vibe is meant for all.
- It has an ergonomic design for the perfect pleasure experience. Its grip is meticulously crafted to make sure it's easy for you to hold regardless of what position you want to use it with, and the soft little tip is carefully designed to surround your sweet spots gently without desensitizing the nerve endings.
To purchase this item or to read more about it, click here.
At last
Bring sensitive but important themes to the light can only help to find better ways to cope and overcome heavy experiences. Advocate for causes like this and it’s also our responsibility and as for our customers and readership, we wish you only the most pleasants experiences. For a lifetime.